My list of Must-do’s when taking a sexy photo.


‘Ricochet’ Self-Portrait

One of the many things I love about photography, self-portraits in particular, is that you can tell any story you want about yourself.  It’s as simple as a costume change, makeup, pose, hair, etc.  Me? I thoroughly enjoy getting all dolled up and letting my sexy side show.  I thought about just posting the above photograph and leaving it at that, because… damn… I look fucking good. Right? I’m so modest. lol

But I don’t always look like this, it takes work to look sexy in an image.

I thought I’d share some of my ‘must do’s’, ways I like to convey sex appeal in my self-portraits:


Step 1: Finger in the mouth. People love fingers in the mouth, and anything that draws attention to the lips.


Step 2: Sexy eyes. Eye contact is important!


Step 3: Push tits together…because, well…who doesn’t like cleavage? It’s like saying, “Look! Another place to put your dick.”

If you’ve learned anything, I hope it’s that you realized—the sexiest thing you can do is just be your damn self. Even if you look like an idiot most of the time, like I usually do. Trying to keep it real. Enjoy!


“Type hard, like you mean it!”


52 Weeks Of Photos ~2016~ Week 15


Quiet Lullaby ~ Self Portrait

The theme for this weeks photo is ‘moody’.  Occasionally, I’ll pair a song with my images, for this one I’m using ‘Christina Perri ~ The Lonely’. I love her music, her songs have a way of making me sad, angry, and emotional….even when I’m extremely happy. Being a woman is confusing. lol

Anyway….. Completely unrelated, but related. I bought this little white slip, nightgown thingy I’m wearing the other day at a thrift store while looking for props. I went hoping to find an old, white, frumpy, cotton nightgown to use for a couple of other photo ideas I have. I ultimately couldn’t find what I needed, but I snagged this for $2.00 as a backup, it was good enough for this photo,  it’s not something I would ever wear otherwise, it makes me feel old. I mean…it’s comfortable, but not very flattering, and if I’m going to dress in something that’s not flattering, but comfortable, I’m going to go all out and invest in a muumuu! Go big or go home, right?  Yeah… that’s not going to happen either. I still want to look in the mirror and like what I see, a muumuu just doesn’t scream “take me to bed, or lose me forever.”

That being said, I’m also not a fan of getting all dolled up in lingerie to prepare for a wild night with the hubby. I know some women, and their men enjoy that experience, but for me, I think it’s such a waste of effort!    Which is odd, because I have a shit ton of lingerie. These days I buy it to use as ‘props’ for my photos.  In real life I feel like it’s so contrived, so I don’t wear it unless it’s something subtle…like garters and stockings under a dress so that when my hubby puts his hand on my leg, he can feel it. I like that it can elicit a response.

I’m starting to wonder if this is a ‘now that I’m older’ thing?  Maybe a bit about comfort and convenience too? Like when my husband wanted to buy sneakers that didn’t tie, but had Velcro instead, no… just no!

This is such a change from my younger days. When I was in my 20’s (I’m 41 now) I would go full out with lingerie, including the corset tops, stockings, garters, matching thong, and let’s not forget…. gloves. Yeah… I found these gems today while I was cleaning my closet. Mind you, I had the head to toe ensemble for each of these, and each piece was the same color. Not sure why I decided to keep just the gloves. They are fucking hot though! I’m wearing them as I type this.  My husband is going to have a hard time refusing me when he comes home. I just know it!


To quote Jennifer Lopez from ‘The Wedding Planner’….”Teal, the color of gangrene.”


I kind of wish I had the rest of the outfits now that I have the boobs to fill them.

What do you all prefer? Lingerie, no lingerie, ball gag, muumuu’s, all of the above?

As for me…I’m off to search for sexy muumuu’s. Two birds with one stone. Wish me luck!

“Type hard, like you mean it!”




I give the illusion that I’m sexy and people believe it. You can fool them too!


I know what you’re thinking. “But Dye- you are sexy, what could you possibly mean?”

Even if that’s not what you are thinking, I’m going to pretend it is because it makes me feel better. Fair enough?

Anyone that knows me knows that I try to keep the sexy in my marriage. It’s too easy to slip into a pool of comfort and forget about taking care of yourself. I’m not saying you shouldn’t be able to just be comfortable, but is frumpy housewife where you want to be everyday? If so, good for you..really,  but that’s not for me.  My husband has always told me that I’m out of his league and I like to live under the illusion that I am. It’s far from the truth, but why try to prove him wrong on this subject too.  The man has suffered enough!  Truthfully – him saying that to me is just one of the many reasons I fell in love with him.  So take note guys, women like hearing that shit.

So I’ve been getting comfortable lately. I’m pretty sure I’ve been wearing a hat everyday for the past two weeks because I haven’t made the time to do anything with my hair. Don’t get me wrong, I can make a hat look sexy – trust me – if you add pigtails and tell your hubby to call them handlebars… it really changes how you view things… if you know what I’m saying. But I don’t want to fall into this stream of comfort and not put the effort in from time to time.

As much as I enjoy spending the day in yoga pants while rocking my husbands free nerdy tech-conference T-shirt, it brings me down…..mentally. And don’t act like you don’t have that same sloppy shit in your closet.  When I walk by the mirror in that outfit, all I think is, “What the hell happened to me?”  I’m a vain person, and I like to look good. Not a day goes by that I don’t at least put some makeup on, I have standards- damn it! They are just low, really, really low.  To quote Tom Cruise in ‘Risky Business’ – “Sometimes you gotta say – What the fuck?” and put some damn effort into yourself and just admit that you’ve never done yoga and you never fucking will- so get off your ass and get dressed…in some real clothes.

Listen– Like most woman, I have body issues, nothing weird like shit growing in strange places issues, but issues nonetheless.  I’ve had three kids.  Right now I weigh about 20 lbs more than I did a few years ago. I’m not saying I’m fat or that anyone at my weight is, but you need to be happy with who you are, and I love the skinnier me better.

I would like to say it’s all baby weight, some of it is left over from that…but to be truthful…I stopped exercising about 2 months ago and then I ate my feelings. They were delicious by the way!!! And fucking worth it.  Sort of.  At the time.  But not really.  Needless to say, I’m back to exercising. Things I’m not loving about myself right now– that area that spans from right below my boobs to just below my hips, and my ass…and arms…and other various parts that are not as tone as they once were.

Wanting to feel better about myself I took action. Do you want to feel sexier? I highly recommend getting boudoir photos done of yourself, even if you don’t have body issues. But if you find that you cover up everything to spare showing the stuff you don’t like then do yourself a favor and make an appointment.  If you go to a professional and splurge, you might just love yourself again. The right photographer will put you into positions that will accentuate the good and hide the bad.

For the most part I usually feel sexy but lately I’ve been kind of meh and been feeling a little old. I decided to do some suggestive boudoir-ish photos of myself. Yes, I’m that talented – try not to fall in love with me. 🙂 What I wanted was something that made me look sexier than I actually am and I wanted to feel good about myself when I looked back on the photos. I also wanted images that I could flash at my husband and say “Got any naked pictures of your wife?” (Of course he does!)

My goal was to cover up the stuff I don’t like and just focus on what I do like. You would think there would be more boob shots, because if you know me at all you know I love my boobs. I wrote a post about them here if you missed it. Remember that just glimpses of skin while being subtle can be very sexy. Here’s what I got.

I love that my ass is blurred out and my stomach doesn't show.

I love that my ass is blurred out and my stomach doesn’t show.

Garters and stockings can instantly sex up an outfit.  I'm just wearing an oversized sweatshirt here but still covering everything I'm not fond of.

Garters and stockings can instantly sex up an outfit. I’m just wearing an over-sized sweatshirt here but still covering everything that I’m not fond of.

I love my boobs so of course I will highlight those.

I love my boobs so of course I will highlight those.

Just a hint of thigh. Subtle but sexy.

Just a hint of thigh. Subtle but sexy.

This one was more for my hubby's viewing pleasure.  It's suggestive, even though I was struggling not to drop the camera in my crotch.  See? I'm all kinds of sexy. lol  The less you know the better.

This one was more for my hubby’s viewing pleasure. It’s suggestive, even though I was struggling not to drop the camera in my crotch. See? I’m all kinds of sexy. lol The less you know the better.

I have a board on Pinterest of some subtle boudoir photos if you want some ideas. I chose them as images that I would like to mimic or recreate down the road. If you take a look at them you can see that most of them are sexy but cover up quite a bit. Feel free to check out my other boards while you are there, just be warned that some of them are downright dirty in nature.

So if you lost your sexy. Go get it back. It misses you.

“Type hard! Like you mean it.”